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The greatest development is achieved during the first years of life, and therefore it is then that the greatest care should be taken. If this is done, then the child does not become a burden; he will reveal himself as the greatest marvel of nature. – Maria Montessori

Maria Montessori’s teaching is becoming one of the most acquired among modern parents and early childhood educators. The reason behind this popularity is the fact that we are not satisfied with old-style parenting and raising techniques anymore. We’ve realized that punishment and harsh discipline is not the answer to dealing with young children’s strong emotions and feelings.
Children’s emotions are not something that can be disregarded and left unnoticed. Montessori stressed how important it is to give every child the utmost respect. She calls for us to view every child as “the greatest marvel of nature”. That means that we have to recognize and understand the child’s needs and fulfill them to the best of our ability based on their natural state of being. Science suggests that a child’s emotional experiences from a very young age form part of their brain and get deeply embedded, influencing their behavior for years to come.
First of all, when dealing with strong emotions it is important to keep in mind that 90% of the outcome depends on our reaction to the child’s outbursts.
Being their “calm within the storm” helps a little person regulate his or her feelings and calm down quicker. We need to respond and react from a place of compassion and empathy. Just like physical bruises, emotional bruises require our attention and care.
“When confronted by situations which concern the child and seem difficult to solve, do not seek outside remedies but concentrate upon the nature of the child and the essential needs of his development”
“The Human Tendencies and Montessori Education” Mario Montessori
According to Montessori, all children need these essentials in order to advance successfully in life, or as Mario Montessori called them, “human tendencies”:
Order – Children thrive when they have clear boundaries in place. Adults have to reinforce those boundaries in a matter-of-fact manner and stay consistent. The word “no” shouldn’t be something we tend to avoid. Even if it provokes a very strong emotional response. Comforting a child is a natural way to deal with those eruptions of feelings. Also, children feel safe and confident when they follow the everyday routine and know what to expect.
“If you hear yourself saying ‘no’ a lot then you can remind yourself that you’re doing a great job.” According to Manning, the self-esteem movement has hijacked our maternal instincts and our desire to be the best mothers possible. With the very best intentions mothers, and increasingly fathers, mistakenly feel that indulging their child’s every whim is a measure of their love for them.
“The pendulum has swung too far and we’ve gone from not being emotionally attuned with our children to thinking that protecting them from any discomfort or things that they don’t want to do is a way of showing love,” says Manning.
Rather than feeling bad about saying “no” to our kids, here are five reasons why we should feel good about it”. Continue reading here.
Orientation – It is important for children to remember that they have a place they belong to – belong to the family and circle of friends and have a community to be a part of. A place where they can feel accepted, valued, and loved for who they are. Our task is to provide an environment where children are free to express their frustration, joy, contentment, anger, and fear. The peaceful environment creates a peaceful atmosphere, state of mind, and body for both – adults and children.
Communication – Communication is not always verbal. We can communicate peace, love, and acceptance through our gestures and body language. Always coming down to the child’s level and making eye contact are all essential parts of establishing successful communication based on respect.
Exploration – Children need to be familiar with their emotions and what to call those feelings that arise in their chest. They should be allowed to explore what in their environment makes them feel sad, happy, curious, exhausted, helpless, or empowered.
Activity (Movement or Work) – Play and Montessori work help children get familiar with social cues, learn what’s appropriate and what’s not, and help them to become masters of their own bodies. It gives them the joy of concentration and self-fulfillment.
Self-preservation and Self-Development – In order for a child to function and develop properly, we have to make sure that his or her needs are met on all levels. For the body, it is nutritious food and exercise, for the mind – challenges and means of development. The well-being of the soul and spirit is just as paramount.
Abstraction and Imagination – Children should be free to express their feelings and emotions through imaginative play, art experiences, and drawing.
Concentration – Repetition – Self Perfection – It takes time and practice to achieve a prominent result. We can reinforce mature emotional responses in various situations and be a positive role models in their lives. We have to prepare to demonstrate it over and over again and help children to adopt these behaviors in the future.
Exactness and Precision – Children trust that we will be consistent with our demands.
I’ve created this printable reminder – a part of what Mario Montessori called human tendencies – elements children need to develop, thrive and be successful. You can download the printable version here

I’ve created A to Z Emotions and Feelings – ABC Cards. This is a great and fun tool for helping children to identify and name various emotions they may experience on a daily basis: A to Z Emotion Cards – ABC Cards

Would you like to learn how to
- Respond positively to misbehavior scenarios while maintaining a loving and respectful connection with their children
- Set up their home for independent play, learning, and responsibility
- Confidently explain Montessori to family and friends
- Get more involved in their child’s learning by providing learning opportunities at home that are consistent with the approaches used at school
- Empower their children to manage their own relationships, including conflict with siblings
- Support their child’s self-discipline by parenting without rewards or punishments.
I invite you to check out The Power of the Prepared Parent – A Montessori Crash Course by Chris O’Leary
Here is what you will learn:
- The 7 specific steps to adopting Montessori principles at home to make home life consistent with school life. It’s easy to be overwhelmed with Montessori but with this formula, you will adopt one step at a time in sequence.
- A simple framework for parenting without rewards and punishments using natural and logical consequences.
- My simple 3-Step Fast Start process to get you started – the three quick and easy things you can do straight away to implement Montessori at home.
- How to determine where your child is at (with no tests and no grades) using this one simple tool.
- The Montessori Parenting Toolkit – including my best tips for how to parent Montessori-style. This includes the language to use, safe words, words to avoid, and discipline and conflict resolution techniques using a paint-by-numbers approach.
- How to present a ‘lesson’ at home using a 6-Step Technique that uses the same steps your child is familiar with at school.
- The 3 Questions that Clear The Mental Clutter and help you focus on what matters most as a Montessori parent.
- The raw, unfiltered truth about why the Montessori method is superior to all other methods of education and how it is supported by current brain research.
- How to develop your ‘fool-proof elevator pitch to describe Montessori – no more vague descriptions when explaining it to family and friends.
- The No.1 reason most people take their children out of Montessori (simply recognizing this is a game-changer).
- Why doing it ‘perfectly’ is a myth, and the mentality to use instead. When you hear this, a huge weight will be lifted off your shoulders.
- Detailed explanations of core Montessori materials (including the sequence of presentations at school) across the five core subject areas: Sensorial, Maths, Language, Culture and Practical Life as well as the Five Great Lessons.
- My 5-Step Fast Start Process to De-Clutter and Set Up Your Home Environment to provide for your child’s independence – as well as detailed room-by-room break-downs for how to set up every room in your home using Montessori principles.
- The biggest mistake Montessori parents make when they try to adopt Montessori at home (and how to avoid it).
- How to hold successful Family Meetings and the psychology behind getting universal agreement on Family Rules so your children have ownership and are engaged in the process.
- How to plan a Going Out activity with a step-by-step Action Guide.
- The Neurology of Montessori so you have a basic understanding of what is happening in your child’s brain and why the Montessori method works.
- My Fast Start Philosophy Formula – 30 key Montessori principles and how they are different from traditional education models.
- A fool-proof strategy for managing screen time and technology using the Montessori approach.
- Tools to cultivate the core characteristics of a Montessori adult: patience, humility, and grace.
- Detailed case studies and examples to demonstrate everyday communication in a Montessori home, including specific techniques, words to avoid, and how to manage discipline and sibling conflict so that you can stay connected to your children while they learn these important life skills for themselves. And that’s only a fraction of what we’re going to cover inside!
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Accepting Emotions
Take a deeper dive into feelings with Accepting Emotions as your guide. The powerful images of people come alive in situations to which kids can relate. Using simple, everyday events lets children focus on the emotions, not just the pictures. In this way your child can begin to notice that there are multiple ways people might experience situations.

Everyday Emotions
Using large, colorful, diverse images of peoples’ faces, Everyday Emotions moves beyond simply identifying feelings to introducing the concept that not everyone reacts the same way in an identical situation. As a result it encourages readers to consider why people might respond in ways that are unlike their own. Let’s say you need to go to the doctor. How would you respond? I’m guessing that many people would have a variety of different reactions. You might dread a certain procedure or be seeking relief for an unidentified pain. Thus, your feelings about going to see a physician will likely differ for each circumstance.

Everybody Feels
Introduce your child to the concept of feelings with this engaging book. Using pictures of real people expressing emotion, it offers a simple way for kids to talk about their feelings. Let’s face it, there is no class that teaches us about our emotions. Yet, feelings are something we experience every day of our life. By validating your child’s feelings (“You look really sad.”) you are letting the child know that expressing their emotions is acceptable.

Max's Box: Letting Go of Negative Feelings
Max's parents give him a very special gift: a tiny, magical box that will hold everything, from his toys to his feelings. Max learns, however, that feelings can't be put away as easily as toys. Each negative emotion he feels—anger, embarrassment, sadness, loneliness—gets added to the box, which grows and grows. Eventually it is so large that it keeps him from doing what he loves, like riding his bike and climbing trees. With some help from his friends and family, Max is able to turn the box into something beautiful and let it go.

Calm: Mindfulness for Kids
Teach your kids how to focus their thoughts and notice the world around them with this fun mindfulness kids activity book.
Mindfulness activities are a great way to teach children about their thoughts and feelings and how to understand them--while having fun at the same time.

Imagine Meditation Kit for Kids - Award-Winning Mindfulness
Imagine Meditation Kit for Kids offer 24 HUGE Mindfulness scripts and Affirmation Cards for kids with content-rich scripts and vibrant illustrations of Guided Imagery meditations for kids, a Mindfulness breathing exercise to practice before any meditation, and an easy navigation aid to find the right card for any feeling or challenge.

Mood Flip Book - Help Kids to Identify and Manage Their Emotions
''How do I feel?'' ''What can I do?'' This simple tool helps youngsters identify their feelings and accept or cope with intense or difficult emotions.
Facial expressions depict a range of feelings and moods -- from happy to sad, friendly to shy, discouraged to angry, and more -- that can be matched to the child's current state.
The backs of each card suggest several strategies relevant to the feeling or mood, including asking for help, deep breathing, talking, finding a quiet place to calm down, and asking for a turn.
Flipbook displays 24 moods or feelings.

Curious Toddler FEELINGS The Little Book of Big Emotions
The Feelings Book introduces seven essential expressions: happy, sad, angry, excited, scared, silly, and proud.

A kids book on feelings, children's books by age 3-5
Join Jade and her father and see how, in a creative, gentle and empowering way, Jade understands what responsibility means in regarding her toys.

In My Heart: A Book of Feelings
In My Heart explores a full range of emotions, describing how they feel physically, inside, with language that is lyrical but also direct to empower readers to practice articulating and identifying their own emotions.

Thank You Mind: Understanding My Big Feelings on Tricky Days
Thank You Mind also includes meaningful tips for caregivers to help their children learn how awareness, self-compassion, and positive self-talk, can be powerful tools even on the trickiest days.

I Feel Anxious: Children's Picture Book About Overcoming Anxiety For Kids
Ideal for toddlers, preschoolers, and elementary school students, I Feel Anxiety explores an important topic in a fun and engaging way, making this book a brilliant tool for any parent who wants to foster healthy emotional growth and development in their child.

Kindness Makes Me Stronger: Children’s Book about Magic of Kindness, Empathy and Respect
Having faced a great challenge our little hero manages to teach his new friends the power of kindness, caring and compassion.

Feelings and Dealings: The ABC's of Emotions: An SEL Storybook to Build Emotional Intelligence, Social Skills, and Empathy
Kids discover a wide range of 26 common emotions which builds empathy, self and other awareness, and interpersonal connection.

Can Quilliam Learn to Control His Temper?
It’s never too early to talk about social and emotional resilience. A list of coping skills, as well as teacher and parent discussion materials on these topics, are included in the back of the book.

When I Get Upset
Telling kids to ”CALM DOWN” rarely works. Find a healthy way to solve the issue and frustration.

Find Your Calm
Anxiety is not just a cognitive experience. When children feel anxious, their bodies respond physically to a perceived threat. They need to feel a sense of safety before being able to figure out what to do next.

Listening to My Body
Listening to my Body is an engaging and interactive book that guides children through the practice of naming their feelings and the physical sensations that accompany them.

I Choose to Calm My Anger
Through colorful illustrations and rhythmic rhymes, he learns coping mechanisms on how to deal with big emotions like anger.

I Like To Be Kind
I Like To Be Kind - this is a fun and cheerful story that inspires children to do good deeds. After reading this charming story, the child will learn what kindness is and how any kind act, big or small, can make us happier.

No More Rules
All preschoolers and young kids sometimes break rules or don't listen. As much as kids enjoy more freedom at home or school, they need enough rules to feel safe and secure.

Kindness is my Superpower
With the perfect examples, this book offers, your child will have more understanding for others, accept diversity, thrive in a multicultural and inclusive environment, and show more empathy.

When I Feel Frustrated
Life doesn't always go as planned. Sometimes we fail and feel frustrated. Help kids develop coping strategies to manage frustration and anger.

My Body Sends a Signal
The book includes a cute story that kids can relate to, beautiful illustrations that capture children's attention, calming-down activities for kids, instructions to adults on the follow-up activities, emotions cards, feelings cards, coloring pages and related short stories to teach kids empathy.

The Kids' Guide to Staying Awesome and In Control
Packed with simple ideas to regulate the emotions and senses, this book will help children tackle difficult feelings head-on and feel awesome and in control!

Let Go of Jealousy
These inviting picture books offer kids a wide range of practical strategies they can use to cope with difficult feelings and situations, such as anger, worry, teasing, and jealousy.

My Attitude of Gratitude
With gentle verses, this book will teach your child to be grateful for what he has, appreciate the warmth of home, and family relationships.
Thank you for your informative, practical and wonderful page.
You are very welcome, Josefina! Your comment made my day! Thank you for visiting!
Wonderful paper, everyone knows how to teach, but we should know how to teach kids to redirect their emotions in a better way. Very informative. Good luck